Phone conversation between Toke Makinwa and Encomium reporter on troubled marriage

Throughout last week, the internet was agog with the news of Toke Makinwa’s husband, Maje Ayida with the news of not only impregnating his ex-girlfriend, Anita Solomon but also the fact that the said Anita had gone abroad to deliver the baby.
When ENCOMIUM Weekly called Mrs. Toke Makinwa-Ayida on Monday, June 22, 2015, this was what she said:

Toke: Hello

ENCOMIUM Weekly: Good morning….
Toke: Okay, what can I do for you?
ENCOMIUM Weekly: Am I speaking with Mrs. Toke Makinwa-Ayida?
Toke: Yes, you are. What can I do for you?
ENCOMIUM Weekly: You probably know why I am calling you. It is about the story of your (she didn’t allow us to finish the statement).
Toke: (cuts in) I don’t have any comment, I don’t have any comment.
Mrs. Toke Makinwa-Ayida has probably gotten over the shock and trauma the news of her husband’s rumoured infidelity must have caused her, because when we called her the previous week (on Monday, June 15, 2015), she didn’t wait for us to ask any question. The moment she heard from ENCOMIUM Weekly, she switched off.
Toke’s comment on her Vlog on youtube on Thursday, June 18 indicates that she has come to live with the reality of her situation in her marital life.

In her words on the Vlog she said, “This has been a very, very, very crazy week. The purpose is not really about me. I am not one who enjoys talking about myself…I just want to talk about other issues.”
Her topic for the day was also suspicious. It was about those going through crises in their relationships.

She went on to advise women to stop taking blames for the misdemeanour of their spouses or boyfriends. She also admonished people generally for being judgmental and blaming women for the atrocities committed by their husbands or boyfriends.

She cited the ease of a woman that wrote her that she was blamed that her husband impregnated her cousin.
“How dare you blame her?”
“Was she the one that put his thing into her private part?” She also admonished women to stop living in self denial.
According to her, “A lot of people need to stop living in denial. The first thing you need to do is to accept the situation.
“It is not about you, stop blaming yourself.”
She went on to advice women in relationships to take the situation in their strides and move on.
In her words, “The sun will definitely shine again because it will always do. For every whao, there is a bigger whao. For every fish, there is a bigger fish. For every scandal, there is a bigger scandal.”
She finally stretched her hand to all women in relationship crisis as a hand of fellowship-meaning we are in it together.
One thing that was conspicuous on the Vlog is the missing marriage picture of Toke Makinwa and Maje Ayida.

Maje and Anita

Toke Makinwa and Maje Ayida get married in January 2014 after their off and on relationship that spans 12 years.
Anita Solomon, the woman that is alleged to be pregnant for Maje Ayida, is also said to have been in relationship with him for eight years.
In fact, someone wrote this on the blogs on internet, “Toke can lie for Africa. Before I write my own, let me say Maje Ayida is a woman wrapper from time!!! Whether Toke stays at home or is a career woman, he was going to cheat no matter what!!! But Toke, was Anita a stalker? Was Erica a stalker?
“Were you not the side chick when he was formally dating those ladies? Who chased them away from Maje so there would be space for you? Was it not you and your Bacchus friends? Sending them anonymous emails, text messages and phone calls?
“Harassing them in clubs, spilling drinks on them, all sorts of childish things to let them know you were in side chick then? Na lie?
“Maje was dating Anita, you (Toke) was seeing him on the side in those days of Bacchus, same with Erica Coswoth. Did you really think after you managed to chase them that you will have peace in that marriage?
“He cheated on them with you. So, of course, he will cheat on you too.
“Karma is a bitch. Anyway, as for Maje, yes, we all know you didn’t really want to marry Toke. I mean, even up a few days to your wedding, you were asking your friends if you should marry her…(smh)! But nobody forced you to go to the registration office without your family’s consent. So as you make your bed you must lie on it and make it work out with Toke.
“Anita, I wish you safe delivery because your baby is innocent in all of this. I know Toke made your life a living hell while you and Maje were dating.
“Maje, go and settle with your wife. Make it up with her. Toke, it is well after all you got what you wanted nah – Mrs. Ayida.
“But sarcasm aside, keep your head up. This will soon be stake gist. But you Toke Makinwa knew, he will always love Anita. So, if you are wise cut your lesses now.”

Customs men looked aways as smugglers battered me -Journalist (Photo)

The journalist who was beaten black and blue by suspected smugglers  has revealed some men of the Nigerian customs looked on without intervening ..At about 4pm last Thursday, June 25,Yomi Olomofe was reportedly battered by the suspected smugglers on the premises of the Nigerian Customs Service office in Seme, Badagry, Lagos State. 

After being battered for about 10 minutes,Yomi Olomofe was carried by the hoodlums who took him to a refuse dump nearby, pummelled him some more, and left him for dead.

Olomofe had been invited to the NCS premises for an assignment. He explained that the suspected smugglers beat him up on the claim that he wrote against their activities in the Seme area.

Narrating his ordeal to PUNCH Metro on Tuesday, Olomofe, a director of a Badagry-based Prime Magazine, said the men of the NCS, Seme Area Command, looked away as the attackers battered him.He added that his two eyes were swollen and closed after the beating.

Our correspondent gathered that the matter was reported to the Area K, Command, Morogbo, on Friday, while a petition was also submitted at the office of the Lagos State Commissioner of Police, Kayode Aderanti, on Tuesday.

Olomofe, who was recuperating at a hospital in Ikeja, identified three of his attackers as Momoh, Shehu and Elijah.

He urged the CP and the Inspector General of Police to commence investigation on the incident, adding that smugglers had taken over the Seme border area.

He said,

 “The attack was around 4pm. There were four men who pounced on me while I was on the NCS, Seme Area Command premises. They were shouting on top of their voices, ‘We will kill you today. When we kill you today, other journalists will leave this place alone.’

“The most notorious of them is known as Alhaji Momoh, otherwise called Basket. The others are Elijah and Shehu. The fourth person is unknown. They came with cudgels. It was when they hit me on the head that I knew they intended to kill me.

“There were about 12 others. They carried me out of the place to a refuse dump. The hoodlums appeared to have some understanding with the customs officers. I want the police to ensure that justice is done on the matter.

“They clearly made an attempt to take my life in broad daylight without any provocation. I have no issue with them whatsoever.”

The Public Relations Officer, NCS, Seme Area Command, Afiz Abiodun Ajao, an Assistant Superintendent of Customs, said the command was investigating the incident, and would come out with its findings soon.

He said, 

“The command learnt of the unfortunate incident and a high-powered investigation has commenced to know what happened.

“The outcome of the investigation will be duly communicated.”

Buhari is being fed with lies by APC leaders – Baraje

A chieftain of the All Progressives Congress, Kawu Baraje, claims that President Muhammadu Buhari is being fed with lies, by some members of the party.

The comments was in reaction to a letter written by Bisi Akande, in which the APC chieftain stated that the rebellion and crisis in the senate is being viewed in the south-west as a northern conspiracy against the Yoruba.

Baraje, a former acting chairman of PDP, expressed disappointment in Akande, whom he warned to watch his utterances in order not to escalate the crisis within the party.

Akande had also claimed in his letter that Baraje and his allies were plotting to hijack the national assembly with the hope of reviving the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) ahead of the 2019 election.

Baraje, responded with a denial of the allegation, stating that he is being targeted for challenging the overbearing position of Akande and some other party leaders.

In a statement released on Tuesday, June 30, Baraje said;

“Akande and co believe that they have exclusive right to determine who occupies what position in today’s Nigeria and whoever tries to challenge their position must be subjected to savage attack in the media. That tactic is definitely undemocratic.

My worry has been that President Buhari is being fed with lies and stories that are dangerous to the polity. My fears have now been confirmed with Akande’s statement. It is my prayer that the president should strengthen his information gathering network, so as to have a clear and true picture of what is happening.”

I am also appealing to Chief Akande and his cohorts to demonstrate more commitment to our party by exposing the president to the truth that would assist him in taking good decisions. I hope that this appeal will be heeded.

Akande has been playing a role which I admire. He will recall that he met some actors, with a governor from the north-west and a leader of the party from the south-west, where the leader from the south-west was cautioned to be reasonable in this crisis.

He supported the view of the governor from the North-west that the particular leader from the South-west should be admonished for his action. It is therefore surprising that Akande is now being economical with the truth and painting a picture that exists only in his imagination.”

Tinubu Is The Pillar of APC, Attacking Him Will Kill The Party

A chieftain of the All Progressives Congress, Lateef Raji, has cautioned his fellow party members that the recent attacks on the party’s National Leader, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, will lead to the ruin of the ruling party.

Raji said in a statement on Tuesday, June 30, that Tinubu was the pillar of the APC and if he was frustrated out of the party, the APC may not to be together as party in the next election.

The party chieftain stated that the current leadership crisis of the National Assembly and recent developments, are testament that some forces within the party are intent on rubbishing some leaders in the party, especially, Tinubu, whom he says is viewed as a threat.

“The history behind the merger that later culminated in the APC is well known and well documented. The role played by Tinubu is also known to all. In whatever terms, his contributions cannot be quantified. So, efforts by anyone to rubbish his contributions will spell doom for the fortune of the party if not now but later.

It is known to all that the shadow elections that were conducted indicated that certain individuals emerged as preferred candidates of the party but these two members (Bukola Saraki and Yakubu Dogara) decided to go against the will of the party by openly defying the will of the party to contest the offices.

The decision of the two to team up with opposition political parties will not in any way augur well for smooth running of the Muhammadu Buhari administration as debates, policies and appointments needed for good governance would be stalled thus making the process of delivering on campaign promises tedious.”

Married Woman Dies in Custody of Her Secret Lover in Lagos

Controversy is currently trailing the death of a housewife, Joy Bakare, 35, after she gave birth on Aya-Oye Street, Ejiigbo, a suburb of Lagos.

The housewife reportedly died mysteriously a few days after she was delivered of a set of twins.

It was alleged that after she got pregnant, her married lover, identified simply as Fatai, took her to the home of a single mother (names withheld) in Aya-Oye Street, Ejigbo, to cover up the shame.

Vanguard learned that Joy already had three children from her estranged husband who resides in Surulere area before she became pregnant for Fatai who resides at Abaranje in Ikotun area.

It was gathered that a few days after she was delivered of the babies in a hospital and was brought back to the woman’s flat, she was found dead after foaming from her mouth on a bed in one of the rooms in the flat.A neighbour, Iya Kubirat, who spoke to Vanguard, said:

 “I can’t say what was responsible for her death because the incident occurred a few days after she was delivered of the babies in a hospital and was brought back to the woman’s flat. She was found dead, foaming in her mouth on top of a bed in one of the rooms in the flat.“When the woman who harboured her in the flat heard the babies crying, she went to Joy’s room to find out what was happening only to discover that Joy was dead. She raised an alarm which attracted neighbours. I was among the people who rushed to the flat. The cause of Joy’s death could not be immediately ascertained as there was no report of autopsy from any doctor.”

However, trouble started after the woman who harboured Joy contacted her husband and family members and they rejected her corpse. She then contacted Fatai who later went to the place and also refused to take responsibility for her burial.

It was gathered that Fatai explained that he did not marry her as his wife and as such, would not accept the corpse for burial, even though he was the father of the twins.

The deceased’s corpse was later deposited at Isolo General Hospital mortuary after Joy’s elder sister arrived.

Meanwhile, the twin babies were handed over to Fatai who took them to his house at Ikotun.

Kate Henshaw In New Stunning Photos for Made Magazine new issue

 

Nigerian Actress Kate Henshaw is the cover girl for the new issue of Made magazine. 

The photos were shot by popular photographer, Paul Ukonu. 

Beyonce shares sexy bikini photos

Beyonce is on a roll as she just shared stunning photos rocking a sexy one-piece on her website..Ejoy

BBA Star Huddah Monroe Displays her BEHIND while partying in Ibiza (photos)

  

This lady needs to chillllllllllll!

The BBA star was pictured on a boat as she partied with friends on 

White Island, Ibiza.

The babe has been in party mood for long and she is not stopping, with her assets on display. See more:

Thee is nothing like Mr.Right -Susan Peters

Nollywood actress ,Susan Peters has said there is nothing mike 'Mr Right".The actress who recently clocked 35 told Encomium

There is nothing like Mr. Right, you will wait forever if you are looking for that. No one is perfect, just deal and learn to adjust to ones flaws. Human beings just like to deceive themselves. I am waiting for a rich guy or I’m waiting for a born again Christian. There is no such thing, only few people have the true meaning of fear of God. As each day passes, we offend God with our thoughts and words, and God still forgives. Those who claim Mr. Right are the ones who end up betraying. For the records, everyone’s father trained them to the level they are, so both parties should be able to train each other if they are willing to learn. I too have my flaws but a man who truly loves me and not my person will be able to deal with it. She said

 On When she is getting married..She said 

Getting married is not a title, but when the right time comes, I will be celebrated and so will every other person be too.

CBN Extends Deadline For BVN Registration (PHOTO)

Just like predicted.

The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has extended the deadline for the registration of Bank Accounts to October 31st, 2015.

This comes as a result of the crowded banks and huge number of Nigerians who have still not been able to get their BVN.

God answers prayers my people!

Fame is the most dangerous drug in the world -Ubi Franklin

Triple MG Ceo and Iyanya's manager,Ubi Franklin bared his mind in a very reveling instagram post on fame ..Read

Don't Let Society Pressure You to Act Out of Character. I keep saying this to my friends things that happen to people that are famous or semi famous or people that blogs made famous, your Life changes the day you walk on the street and some random person ask you for a picture "I love your movies" " I love your songs " " I love the way you manage your artiste" "I love your shows on Tv" from that day you get home and ask yourself questions like " so people know me now?" 

Authomatically the next day every thing about you changes, how you walk, talk, dress and what people say. FAME is the most Dangerous Drug in the world. After all this light camera Action what really is the real you sets in at about 12:30 am when you are struggling to sleep with many problems in mind, water bills , light bills, house bills, next Hit song, next Major movie, Family issues back home, one strange illness faced by a family member could be your Mum or your Dad, relationship issues, marriage issues, if you do this or that what will the world say?

LISTEN if you are reading wether you are famous rich or poor just know that we all Have issues we can't deal with till the right time that God has designed for it. I wish I can share a story here for you all. Woke up with alot on my mind and decided to share something pls pardon any typos or wrongly used words 

Do everything to make yourself Happy the same society that Judge you have something they are dealing with too. When it rains all roofs get wet, only a few know that some roofs are leaking . Think Deep.

Forget what you see on instagram everyone is going Through something somewhere and somehow. Don't Judge 

Thanks Good Morning

Jega Bows Out, Hands Over to Ahmed Wali

The Chairman of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), Professor Attahiru Jega has bowed out. He handed over to Ambassador (Dr.) Ahmed Wali on Tuesday.

Before his appointment as National Commissioners of the (INEC), Wali was a Visiting Reader (Associate Professor) to the Department of Political Science, Usmanu Danfodiyo University, Sokoto, and Chief Executive Officer, Development Strategies International (DSI).

Ambassador Wali is a member of various committees of INEC and the Chairman of the Tenders Board.

Still Banging at 45! Naomi Campbell is all shades of sexy for Lingerie campaign

Even at 45,Naomi Campbell has no rival as far as modelling in concerned .The supermodel is all shades of sexy as she models the latest range of racy lingerie for La Perla. 

Recently at the Menswear Fashion week in Paris , she strutted her stuff in a very racy attire..

Saraki Replies APC Leader, Speaker Dogara Fires Too

The Senate President, Senator Bukola Saraki, and the Speaker of the House of Reps, Hon. Yakubu Dogara, on Monday described as baseless a statement by the former All Progressives Congress National Chairman, Chief Bisi Akande, that their elections on June 9 were sponsored by oil barons.

Saraki and Dogara gave their reaction in separate statements in Abuja on Monday.

Akande, in a widely publicised statement on Sunday, had alleged that oil barons who never liked President Muhammadu Buhari`s anti-corruption stance, sponsored the elections of Saraki and Dogara in a bid to stifle the new government.

Akande also alleged that some splinter groups within the APC were aligning with old and new PDP forces to launch a platform for the 2019 polls.

Dogara, in a statement by his Special Adviser on Media and Public Affairs, Mr. Turaki Hassan, challenged Akande to name the oil barons.

The speaker said he expected Akande, an elder statesman, to play his fatherly role at a period of disputes within the APC’s family by seeking ways to reconcile the factions, rather than attacking his person.

Dogara said that the allegations existed only in Akande’s “imagination”, adding that he won his election based on the support of his colleagues, his competence and capacity to preside over the House as the Speaker.

The speaker recalled that the first investigative motion passed by the House after his election was to probe the alleged crude oil swap contracts awarded by the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation.

He noted that it did not make sense for him to back the probe of the same oil sector’s stakeholders Akande alleged to have sponsored his election.

Also, the Special Assistant to the Senate President on Print Media, Chuks Okocha, described the allegations as mischievous and totally false.

Okocha, in a statement in Abuja on Monday, said Akande’s claim gave a negative and dirty impression that the emergence of the senate president was aimed at sabotaging the anti-corruption posture of Buhari’s government and the ‘Change agenda’ of the APC.

He said, “Ordinarily, we would have ignored the report, but for the sole reason that some undiscerning readers might mistake the fiction for the facts.

“We also wish to state unequivocally that it was wrong and mischievous for the statement by Chief Akande to link what happened on the floor of both chambers to some unnamed oil barons.

“We dare say that the entire story was the figment of the imagination of the author.”

Residents,motorists panic in Ikorodu over Oba's death

Following the reported demise of Oba Johnson Fatola of Ikorodu whose death was announced around 6pm on Monday, June 29, 2015,the residents and visitors to Igbogbo, Ikorodu fled for saftey as such deaths are accompanied by late night curfew...

 The curfew in line with traditional culture is usually observed for a week .It  bans males and females from being seen outside at a certain hour and failure to observe teh curfew often attracts deadly consequences ..

According to Vanguard,Residents were said to have made several calls to friends and family members to hurry home for fear of street urchins taking advantage of the situation to wreak havoc in the community. As at 7pm many shops were closed as people ran for dear lives, while commercial drivers abandoned major routes for fear of vandalisation.

Caroline Danjuma proves she's 28 by sharing her masters degree ID card

Caroline Danjuma is really trying to prove herself. she has fired back at claims 
she is 34. The actress and mother of three who celebrated her birthday a few days 
ago says she is 28, yet many don't believe her. She went ahead to post her 
masters degree  ID card.

Singer Seyi Shay shares pics from her hospital bed

 Sexy singer Seyi Shay is in the hospital as she battles an undisclosed ailment. The singer shared a photo of drips injected into her arm, disclosing how she hates hospitals..

We hope she gets back in her feet pretty soon.. See pic below

Eniola Badmus flaunts legs in sexy shorts

Eniola Badmus is all about flaunting her legs these days...She looks good!

EXPOSED: In 3 Years, NNPC generated N8tn, Gave us N4.3tn & Big Men Shared The Rest

The Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, NNPC, generated about N8.1trillion between 2012 and May 2015, but paid only N4.3trillion to the federation account.

The balance of the oil money - about N3.8trillion - was withheld and spent by the Presidency and NNPC big boys unilaterally without approval or National Assembly appropriation.

“This has never happened before and for us this is profound. We are talking about transparency, we are talking about change. And what we saw from those numbers I believe that Nigerians are entitled to know, is that whereas the NNPC claimed to have earned N8.1 trillion, what NNPC paid into the federation account from 2012 to May 2015 was N4.3trillion. 

“What it means is that NNPC withheld and spent N3.8 trillion."

Edo State governor, Adams Oshiomhole, said who citing details from the federal economic council.

Also, the governor confirmed at the meeting that from November 2014, about $2.1billion was withdrawn from the excess crude account without the approval of the National Economic Council, NEC.

Oshiomhole, who, alongside some other governors, briefed journalists, said following the discovery, the NEC has set up a four-member committee to comb the books of the NNPC to confirm its remittances and how the excess crude account was utilized.

President Muhammadu Buhari dissolved the board of the NNPC on Friday, to pave way for full investigation of the corporation.

Oshiomhole this was the first time the NNPC and the office of the Accountant General of the Federation, briefed the National Economic Council, as directed by President Buhari.

The governor said Buhari “compelled” the NNPC to provide information in “black and white” on issues that are relating to the total sales of Nigeria’s crude oil from 2012 to May 2015.

“The major revelation here is that for the entire federation — that is the federal government, the states and all the 774 local governments — the amount the NNPC paid into the federation account for distribution to this three tiers of government came to N4.3 trillion and NNPC alone took and spent N3.8 trillion. Which means the cost of running NNPC is much more than the cost of running the Federal Government. That tells you how much is missing, what is mismanaged, what is stolen, they are huge figures.”

He said NNPC had not respected the Constitution on how government money should be spent.

“If NNPC needs to spend money, it is obliged to prepare its budget like every other business

enterprise. That budget will be scrutinized by the executive and forwarded to the National Assembly and the National Assembly will accordingly appropriate it.

“If the federal government cannot spend without appropriation, why should any agency spend without appropriation?”

President Buhari has promised that, henceforth, all monies must go to the federation account.

13 Shocking Reasons Why Married Women Cheat

About 75% of divorces stem from cheating, either from the woman or the man. Men have been accused more of cheating than women, but you will be surprised to know even women cheat more these days and here are the reasons why.

1. Complacency

When you were together before marriage, you were probably miles apart and so seeing each other always appears fresh, but now you’re married and you wake up in each others faces. You always see each other and so couples don’t mind or pay attention to what the other does. Sometimes things that would have made you rush out to help her aren’t there anymore. When this continues for long, the bliss in the love reduces and women will want to find it elsewhere.

2. Lacking The Fear of God (Very Dangerous)

When a woman is prayer-less, goes to church only on Sundays and does not have the consciousness of God in her, any thing can happen. Majority of women who are able to remain faithful despite the challenges or temptations do so not because they feel their man deserves their faithfulness but purely because they do not want to offend God. A spirit filled born again woman who fears God understands that cheating on her husband is not just a sin against man but a sin against God. Being born again drags you to church services , midweek prayer and constant reading of the bible. These small thing may seem common but the constant awareness of the divine has reportedly kept the sanity of many marriages.


3. Not Helping Her Out

Before marriage, she probably had sisters who were taking care of certain things for her, but after she got married, she has had to do everything on her own, coupled with taking care of a baby, so from time to time, she expects the man to help with the chores but if she is ignored for long and she’s overwhelmed by the workload, she’s likely to cheat with a man who will help her out. Yes it sound simple but women are complicated. A woman who misses some simple things in a husband will unintentionally begin to crave that particular trait and once she sees it in another man, She begins to compare and contrast. She begins to appreciate the vacuum more and if she does not watch it, She will only come to her senses when the other man mounts her cums.


4. Not Having Enough Relationship/Sex Experience Before Marriage


A woman who has been around the block will find nothing spectacular about the next in line cock. She has seen her fair share and has realised that their is nothing left to explore. It doesn't really make much difference to sexual happiness whether you are an experienced lover or not. But there is such pressure to gain sexual experience that those who don't tend to wonder what sex would be like with someone else. Virgins are more prone to feeling the grass is always greener on the other side when they do have relationships. And, if their partner is sexually experienced, they're vulnerable to jealousy. 'They may feel they have to live up to their partner's previous lovers. This leads to the feeling they're always being compared and found wanting, which can make for much unhappiness. What's more important is to have had a wide range of life experiences before you commit to someone, rather than a wide range of sexual experiences.

5. Financial Situations

Women just don’t know how to survive without money and they find it difficult if they are unable to buy some basic things such as panties, bra, make-up kit, dresses etc. and usually with marriage, some of these things come to a halt or are reduced. She doesn’t get the opportunity to go shopping and all that and before you know it, she’s cheating with a man who can satisfy those needs.


6. Limited Expectations

Before marriage, women actually fantasize about marriage being rosy, like a fairy tale ending where they lived happily ever after, thinking the man will be so romantic after marriage, will lift them up every morning when they are pregnant. They actually daydream about this and when they finally get married, they realize it was indeed as it was, a fairy tale.

Reality strikes and they realize, it’s nowhere near their imagination and before they know it, they are looking for it elsewhere.


7. Intimacy

With time, couples become distant due to children, jobs and economic pressure, meanwhile, women love the intimacy and privacy you share together. When it’s not forthcoming, she’s likely to get someone who will provide her with that.


8. Sensitivity

Women are actually a bundle of sensitive “creatures” and whatever you do or say to them can have an adverse effect on them for ages. Shouting at her or ridiculing her in an unpleasant manner is likely to make her want to find solace elsewhere and by now you know what she’s likely to do.

Also if she finds a man who understands her sensitivity and surprises her all the time, she’s likely to fall for it.


9. Revenge

If you’ve ever cheated on a stupid woman and she caught you, then prepare for payback. Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your self-esteem. At the moment you find out your man cheated, your whole body begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel nauseated. Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood, behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.


10. Sex

When the sex gets boring and no more thrilling as it used to be, she’s likely to go find someone who makes her feel good. Women need to feel desired and experience REAL orgasms during sex. If women are getting bad sex, not enough sex, non-emotional sex, or "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex, you may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD sex! This creates a temptation to seek sexual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it's best to communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a sex therapist.

11. Weight loss/plastic surgery:

Male attention increases quickly after a boob job, a butt implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act wisely and make your pros and cons list.

12. Financial independence:

When you feel financially dependent on your husband or boyfriend, it's more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.

13.  Low self-esteem: 

This is the most dangerous. Run if you see this trait in a woman. When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to seek validation from others. This can be in the form of sexual, emotional, or intellectual attention. When you don't love or value yourself, you may project that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don't love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love.