Marriage is Not for Fickle Minds - Caroline Danjuma

Caro and hubby 

Words of advice on how to handle marriage from Nollywood actress turned producer, Caroline Danjuma. You know she knows what she's talking about. Excerpts are from her recent interview with Punch.

• You have been married for a decade, how would you describe the journey?

The institution is not for fickle minds. I have learnt to be patient, extremely prayerful, kind and I don’t take things for granted. Even though I wanted to be married because I wanted to have children and a husband I can come home to, I have learnt that marriage is much more than the
aforementioned. I have gone through the moulding stage; I am now a beautiful masterpiece.

My husband is extremely supportive of everything I do, he protects me and doesn’t want me to do anything that would hurt me and I appreciate that. I know what pleases him and he hasn’t stopped me from being a part of Nollywood. He knows I love being a creative person.

• Do you think it is possible to have a successful marriage and career?

Yes, as long as you are on the right path and have the support of your family. It is very difficult when your partner isn’t in the same field as you are. I recall when we were shooting the movie-Stalker; I was on set all night so I had to carry my husband along by explaining things to him. It was difficult for him to accept initially, but later he saw things for himself.

• Did you meet your husband while you were working?

Yes, I did but I wouldn’t want to talk about the circumstances under which we met.

• What attracted you to him?

He was and still is very calm and gentlemanly; he was not too pushy.

• You were already doing great as an actress at the time you got married. Was it a tough call to let go of fame to concentrate on marriage and family?

I got married about the time I won the Best Actress Award for my role in Mass Destruction at The Nigeria Movies Award that was hosted in Tinapa. However, it was very easy for me to make the switch because I am a go-getter. At that time, my mind was set on marriage; I always wanted to be married at a certain age. I was already a graduate and I wanted to get married and have kids because I felt it was a form of responsibility. Thankfully it happened.

• Do you miss spinsterhood?

I don’t miss anything because I am an introvert; I love to stay at home and have a good laugh. When I want to go on an adventure, it has to be a really crazy one. I love horror movies and I am not the type who loves to party because I am very shy.